I spend too much on Christmas.

Stay at home mom who LOVES Christmas here. Every year my husband (of 8 years) gets upset with me over Christmas. I talk too much about it, spend too much, decorate too much, watch too many Christmas movies, it all bothers him. Mostly the money. This year we’re hosting both sides of the family and I’ve already started planning and buying gifts. Hubby thinks I spend too much. I like to buy a $10-$20 gift for everyone on our list and then spend more on my kids and husband. We’re pretty well off financially. We’re not talking about going into debt or dipping into savings or anything from my spending but I understand it all adds up. I shop the sales and start shopping early but what would normally go into savings in November and December, I put toward Christmas. It’s my absolute favorite time of the year and also the one time of year he makes me feel like our money isn’t ours. I become very aware he makes the money, not me. I’m generally a modest spender throughout the year. I only really spend money on groceries and household stuff and I always run anything else by him before I buy it. Every Christmas I’m in charge of everything and every Christmas I end up feeling like shit. How can I plan a happy Christmas without talking to him about it (since he doesn’t want to hear about it) but also giving him financial approval but also knowing that sometimes he might say he’s okay with an expenditure but really he’s not? via /r/relationship_advice https://ift.tt/38GC4g4